You won’t always feel the way you do now

Hi everyone

Many years ago after I lost someone close to me, I went through a challenging time. Every day was a struggle. It was the lowest point of my life and it seemed like I’d always feel that way. It really scared me!

I had this idea of myself as a strong, resilient person and the foreign emotions that bubbled up didn’t fit with my positive, cheerful self-image. My anxiety levels skyrocketed as I tried to double-down on my emotional toughness. It had worked for me before so surely it would work again?

That plan backfired big time and why? Well folks, in a stand-off with Mother Nature, I came off second best and that was a good thing. It taught me a profound lesson about resisting and letting go.

Carl Jung, the Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst believed that, ‘what you resist, persists.’ When I realised I needed to go through the feelings not around them, the way forward became easier. It was still no picnic I tell you, but when you let your emotions come and go naturally, they do work themselves out – perhaps not straight away but in their own time.

You can get back to where you were before, not exactly the same place because that’s not possible, but you settle on a new equilibrium that absorbs your changed reality.

When you are going through a difficult time, it helps to remember that you won’t feel the way you do now forever. Things change through the passage of time and the natural ebb and flow that occurs with that movement.

You never know what tomorrow will bring so try not to get stuck in how you feel today as it will shift and evolve as time goes by. Light and hope may be just around the corner so keep moving forward.

Take care and be kind to each other

Janine

P.S. Photo of a sunset at a rocky beach in the Taranaki region, NZ.

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